Born and raised on Oahu, Catherine Toth Fox is an editor, writer, children鈥檚 book author, blogger and former journalism instructor. She is currently the editor at large for Hawaii Magazine and lives in Honolulu with her husband, son and two dogs. You can follow her on Instagram @catherinetothfox. Opinions are the author's own and do not necessarily reflect Civil Beat's views.
The first time I met Lillian Noda Yajima was the way hundreds of other young Japanese American women did, in her kitchen.
The retired public school teacher was leading a class on manju, a Japanese confection made from flour, sugar and water. So simple, she explained, and yet so many local Japanese families didn鈥檛 know how to make it anymore. She wanted to make sure this, along with other oft-neglected Japanese traditions, weren鈥檛 forgotten.
This was more than 20 years ago, when I was 25 and basically clueless about my Japanese heritage. As a fourth-generation Japanese American I was pretty removed from my mother鈥檚 culture. Sure, I had taken a few classes in ikebana (Japanese flower arrangement) and completed two years of Japanese language in high school, but that only resulted in my ability to count to 10 and ask where the bathroom is. Not super helpful.
So I signed up to be a contestant in the annual to learn more about my heritage and met Mrs. Yajima.
She had been with the festival since it began in 1953. Her husband, Tad Yajima, was active in the Honolulu Japanese Junior Chamber of Commerce which organized the festival. She鈥檇 done everything from recruit contestants to sew feathers in the queen鈥檚 cape. And for decades, she taught young Japanese-American women how to fold origami and make manju in her Hawaii Kai home.
But that鈥檚 not how she鈥檚 most impacted me and many others.
Lillian Yajima was one of the happiest, most generous people I鈥檝e ever met. And she had more energy than my 6-year-old son, volunteering and teaching classes well into her 90s. For decades, she was active in various community organizations, led programs for the residents of Hale Pulama Mau care home, taught hula to anyone who wanted to learn, helped create , and started scholarships to perpetuate the Japanese culture. She earned the by the Honpa Hongwanji Mission of Hawaii and honored at the Japanese Cultural Center鈥檚 Spirit of Aloha Gala in 2022, the year she turned 102.
At her birthday party at the Waialae Country Club this past August, Mrs. Yajima got up in front of a ballroom full of people and danced hula to 鈥淟ovely Hula Hands,鈥 one of her favorites, wearing a haku lei and a pink muumuu. She was 102 and maybe just a little slower but still smiling and laughing, sharing stories and thanking everyone who showed up.
鈥淚 can鈥檛 believe all these people are here for me,鈥 she told me, leaning close.
鈥淥f course they鈥檙e all here for you,鈥 I said. 鈥淵ou mean a lot to a lot of people.鈥
She shook her head, smiling. She wasn鈥檛 one for compliments, but she did bask in the love and admiration that surrounded her that morning.
She was 102 and still dancing hula. She was 102 and still walking around her neighborhood with her grandkids. She was 102 and still shopping at the mall and going out to dinner with her friends.
She was 102 and still eating sweets and operating a cell phone.
She was 102 and still planning to teach the latest batch of Cherry Blossom Festival contestants how to make origami boxes and Halloween-themed manju.
Mrs. Yajima died on Oct. 25, just two months after her birthday party and a few weeks short of teaching that class.
It鈥檚 strange to think of a world without her cheerfulness, her zeal, her energy. She charged into this world in 1920 to make a difference 鈥 working as a teacher for 30 years and serving her community for many decades then quietly slipped out. She was disruptive in all the right ways. If you met her, you were changed by her. Maybe she inspired you to volunteer, to take hula classes, to fold your own origami cranes for your wedding. Or maybe it was more subtle than that 鈥 you were inspired to live fully, to ganbare (do your best).
I don鈥檛 fold origami boxes or dance hula, but I鈥檝e volunteered with the Cherry Blossom Festival for more than 20 years because of her. I made a point to learn my mom鈥檚 recipe for manju because of her. And I value my Japanese heritage because of her.
There鈥檚 a Japanese saying 鈥 鈥渙kage sama de鈥 鈥 that means, 鈥淚 am who I am because of you.鈥
It鈥檚 a saying that embodies my friendship with Mrs. Yajima perfectly.
Memorial donations may be given to the , which helps perpetuate Japanese culture and volunteerism.
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Born and raised on Oahu, Catherine Toth Fox is an editor, writer, children鈥檚 book author, blogger and former journalism instructor. She is currently the editor at large for Hawaii Magazine and lives in Honolulu with her husband, son and two dogs. You can follow her on Instagram @catherinetothfox. Opinions are the author's own and do not necessarily reflect Civil Beat's views.
Always great to see a good person live a long, happy, productive life. I've always admired people that have the energy and optimism that I don't possess.
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